Roslyn Rozbruch, my wife and business partner at Tax & Business Solutions Academy is the guest author of this blog post.
If I were to tell you I knew three words that could change your life for the better, would you want to know what they are? You might be wondering, “How can three words change my life, and what would I need to do to make that happen?”
I learned about these words over a year ago from reading a book called “The Charge” by Brendon Burchard. Brendon is a motivational speaker, trainer, and coach. He has written books, created online training programs, and puts on events like High Performance Academy, a conference where he teaches the same principals he writes about in “The Charge.”
In his book, Brendon says to pick three words to describe the person you want to be. He writes, “Select and commit to three words that will define the trait of who you are as a person … and by defining the words of who you want to be, you will be more likely to enact that trait in your life.” Think of three words that will set the standard for who you want to be and say them every day. Mine are: focused, disciplined, and confident. I start my day by saying them: “I am focused, I am disciplined, I am confident.” I say this several times, and I say them with intent.
Here’s an important fact for you to remember when choosing your words. Ask yourself, “Why are these words important to me? Once you decide what they are, write them down. I don’t care if you store them in your phone, write them in a notebook, or tattoo them on your body. If you don’t write them down, chances are you won’t remember them, and if you don’t remember them, you can’t say them!
This is a simple and easy practice to do. This might even be the easiest self-improvement technique you will ever learn, and you can do it anywhere, at any time. If you forget to say them in the morning, you can say them as you drive to work. If you forget to say them in the car, you can say them in your head as you are standing in line at Starbucks. If you do a downward dog stance at Starbucks, people will know you are doing yoga. If you say your three words in your head, no one will know.
When I first started saying my words, for the life of me, I couldn’t remember them. I’d wake up, and I just didn’t know what they were. It was like my brain didn’t want to work so hard to be doing all of this changing, so it refused to remember them. Of course, I know them now. In the past year that I have been saying them, I have seen a change in myself. Every day, I am becoming more of the person I want to be, and it’s empowering. Let me share words others have used: present, enthusiastic, authentic, compassionate, helpful, connected, courageous, and fearless.
Here is my challenge for you. Choose three words that define the person you want to become, write them down, and, for the next 30 days, say them every morning — several times, with intent, like a mantra — and I guarantee that after 30 days of doing this, you will see how you are becoming more of that person you want to be, and how your life has changed for the better because of it.